Travelling solo – why I encourage you!


Posted by Brooke on January 14th, 2014


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If you are thinking about doing a solo trip, stop the thinking part and just do it!

 

While I have been to foreign countries on my own before, it’s usually only been for a couple of days while I was waiting for someone to join me. I had never done the full blown solo holiday before. Until now.

 

The common response from people when I booked it was;  ‘won’t you get bored?’ ‘what will you do?’  and the occasional, ‘that’s so sad.’ The simple answer to those questions were, no, lots, and far from it. Sure, if my husband could have taken the time off work it would have been unreal, but that was never an option and I wasn’t about to let that stop me.

 

I enjoy my own company, I always have. I enjoy going to the movies on my own, am more than comfortable going to an art gallery or exhibition on my own (so cultured) and don’t mind heading to a restaurant or café by myself.

 

I needed this holiday. I was burnt out. Big time. I needed toothpicks to keep my eyes open and alcohol in my hand to say anything interesting. It was a big year; I renovated a house, started a new job, started my own business (Show + Tell) and did it all at full-speed. (Is there another speed?)

So, I took myself off to Bali for two weeks to recharge my batteries and have some ‘me’ time. You know, real ‘me’ time, where your phone is off, no-one can find you, and the only questions people ask you are ‘would you like to make that a double?’ and ‘will that be an hour or half hour massage?’ Heaven.

 

For me, there is no better place on earth for this kind of holiday than Bali. Ah, blissful, beautiful, Bali. Perfect weather (by perfect, I mean hot, stinking hot, just how I like it), yummy food, friendly faces, beach massages and great shopping. I can’t even imagine what else you would need on holiday?  People are also very friendly when you’re on your own – in fact – it makes us women all the more ‘mysterious’. Who doesn’t love chatting to a mysterious woman?

 

I had the most liberating trip. I felt so empowered going to places on my own and found myself feeling quite pleased with myself for actually enjoying it, like, really enjoying it.

I stayed at the very cool W Hotel in Seminyak and very sophisticated The Seminyak Resort and Spa – both were ah-mazing. I started the day with yoga (and one day, a very embarrassing aqua –aerobics class where I couldn’t keep up with the ladies twice my age), ate out on my own for breakfast, lunch and dinner (and a pre-dinner drink or two). I met a gorgeous homewares buyer who was also travelling on her own and kept me company for one too many lychee cocktails, and another group of girls who invited me to have dinner with them, to which I happily obliged, but other than that I was all on my own and loving it.

 

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The incredible W by night and the Seminyak Resort and Spa by day.

 

There were times I was totally out of my comfort zone but that also felt liberating because I would always end up surprising myself. I tried new things while singing Beyoncé’s ‘Independent Woman’ in my head and felt unstoppable as I opted for the third cocktail or  walked down the bustling street at night flicking my hair around.

 

Okay, so I am certainly no pro at this (yet), but I would like to share the little wisdom I do have from this ‘I am woman hear me roar’ solo-trip:

 

-          Eat alone –  I don’t just mean breakfast or brunch but dinner. Eat dinner alone. It’s empowering, trust me. And, you don’t have to share dessert with anyone.

 

-          Try a group activity if you’d like to break up the sole routine – cooking class, yoga, surfing – whatever floats your boat.

 

-          Smile! And if you’re feeling really Beyoncé-like, talk to people. You’ll meet people you wouldn’t when traveling with someone.

 

-           Lie a little. Just little white lies – i.e. – don’t let on you’re on your alone, say you’re on your way to meet your husband/ friend etc. Oh heck, who am I to stand in your way, lie a lot, make up a sordid exciting past.

 

-          Be adventurous – no one can see you if you fall off the paddle board 100 times in a row or lose your bikini top on a jet-ski. (if you find a black Tigerlilly bikini top while you’re there, it’s mine.)

 

-          Travel light – not a good look falling over your suitcase and staring at your bruised legs on a sun lounge for the next week.

 

-          Don’t wear a sarong – it’s just you and your cellulite, who cares.

 

I challenge you to do this sometime this year. It doesn’t have to be for two weeks, or one week even, maybe it’s a weekend or even a solo lunch. But take yourself somewhere you haven’t been before and explore. You’ll be surprised at how much you get to know yourself. And you’ll be more surprised at how empowering it will make you feel  -long after the trip.

 

 Have you ever travelled solo?

 

 

* The very fabulous peeps at Creative Holidays looked after me and made sure I had the trip I wanted. If you’re wanting to book your own holiday to Bali – or anywhere else – contact them here –  http://www.creativeholidays.com.  They are unreal – and well connected.*



Brooke

Brooke

Brooke Campbell - Co-founder of Show and Tell. Journalist and TV Producer. New wife to James - and hoping it stays that way as they renovate their first home together. Home and interiors enthusiast who loves salted caramel, throwing dinner parties and sunshine.


  • Lauren

    I love this! There seems to be a stigma against doing things on your own but I, like you, enjoy my own company and like to do things on my own. I have seen a few movies on my own, saw a musical alone, and went travelling by myself in Europe for a couple of weeks.

    As much as I love my friends and family sometimes it is nice to not have to worry about other people and if they are happy/having a good time etc. You can do what you want when you want.

  • http://Www.themunsgroup.com.au Erin

    Sounds like bliss Brooke! X

  • https://www.facebook.com/cheriexx Cherie Joy

    I travelled to Central America by myself and loved it! It definitely took me out of my comfort zone but I was a better person when I returned. Would do it all again if I had the chance.

  • Tara

    I LOVED seeing this!! I’ve travelled alone a lot and have not felt lonely or like I’m missing out. In fact, quite the opposite!! I agree that those who have never done it actually feel sorry for you but the joke is on them! Happy to see travelling alone being painted in a positive light. Great article Brooke!!

  • Kylie

    Thank you Brooke for sharing your holiday joy. I travelled alone to do a working holiday in Scotland and I had the same reaction from others who thought it was sad I had to go solo.. When I arrived and it was bloody cold and gloomy….I was way out of my comfort zone, staying in a backpackers while I found somewhere to live and work. It was scary but exhilerating at the same time. Within a few weeks I found a kickass share house, with amazing people and I had the time of my life. There’s no way I would have been able to find such a great house if I was travelling with others. The other thing I did which may sound whacky but which was inspiring and life changing was that I climbed a mountain on my own. There’s something very empowering about standing on top of a mountain, feeling the wind in your face and looking down over the world, with a smirk on your face. I had a huge Beyonce (natural wind blowing my hair…not fans) moment and I will never forget it. Go for it girls!!!!

  • Lina

    Great article !!! I like you love my own company and am quite comfortable in it. Yes I do have a boyfriend and we do hang out but he is now used to me doing many a things by myself. Lunch, dinner,shopping,cafes, sporting activities, hikes and travelling. It’s the best way to be. Getting out of your comfort zone is where all the magic and adventures happen.

  • Adam

    Hi I saw your blog on news.com.au, thought I’d share that I traveled for 3 years solo around South America and loved every minute of it. Was never truly alone. My advice is to tell a joke wherever you go as it’s the easiest way to make friends with strangers.

  • Elizabeth Avery

    I am an inveterate solo traveler and was intrigued that you choose Bali for your first trip alone. Living in the US, I traveled solo to Australia and fell in love with the whole country. We have since started a website for traveling alone so please visit us at http://www.SoloTrekker4U.com.


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